Doubts, confusion & not knowing what to do

Lack of clarity. Because if you don’t know what to do, the first thing is to find out. First you need to know what you want to do with your life. What are your goals, dreams, desires. From your soul/ intuition. Not from the ego, the things that everyone thinks they want. Not the keeping up with the Joneses. But what you truly want! What makes you happy. What you love to talk about. Your own true message to the World. Lately I’ve been writing with a goal, to teach something. Not through what inspires me. But I miss doing my inspired posts ;) Following whatever comes up, without worrying if that’s what my clients need to hear, and just follow the guidance that comes up, whatever it may be. But continuing… Knowing what you truly want to do! That’s power right there, because then you become unstoppable. But the…

Doing Your Duty

Today I wanted to tell you about doing your duty, doing what you feel called to do. Following your higher self, the things that your higher self tells you to do. Are you doing that, or are you acting because you think you need to do certain things, to be successful? The way to be free from your ego and from anxiety or depression around the results you have, is to see all your actions as your duty. And to perform them without expecting any results! When you do your actions, the daily things you decide to do, without attachment to the results, you are free from new conditioning. If not, you tend to stop doing what isn’t working, and continue doing what works. Even if that’s not what you really want to do. Actions aren’t as important for your success anyway. They are important because they create results in…

Sally, the Victim vs Who You Really Are

Today I thought about telling you about Sally. Sally is a doll I bought, to represent my victim mentality, in 2017, when we were on a road trip from Alcochete to Barcelona. I decided to call her Sally. Sally was the fearful part, the part that doesn’t believe she can do it, that is forever afraid and never gets out of her shell. This phrase actually triggers me a bit, because people used to tell me: You’re getting out of your shell. And it felt like a critic in a way, meaning that before, I was in my shell ;) And the truth is, we all are. We’re all in our protective shell, that the ego did for us. And it’s hard to get out of it. It’s hard to get out of the Sally the victim mentality. During our trip to Barcelona I was doing a course about being…

The world is speaking to you

The world is speaking to you Today I wanted to tell you about this experience I have now, of seeing how the World and the symbols in the World, are speaking to me! There’s an interesting phrase from Einstein: “There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” And that includes, I think, seeing everything as connected to you. When you can feel how you are part of the World, how everything is connected to you, it’s so much easier to feel that everything is a miracle. You just naturally do it. Life seems like something completely different, that you never thought about before. That you never even considered existed. If you believed in that, if you already KNEW it was true, how is the World talking to you too? What’s the message that…

The business roller coaster and how to leap

Are you doing the inner work?I don’t like very much that sentence because it reminds me of work, so it doesn’t sound very fun ;) But really the inner work is the key for things to go well and for you to reach the destination you want to reach. Because the actions you’re taking, the results you’re getting, come from what’s on your mind. What you believe, what you feel.That influences everything in your life. For example, I used to doubt my business a lot. I used to think that maybe it wasn’t the right path, that it was an experiment. I was trying it out. Maybe it works, maybe it doesn’t, let’s see how it goes. But when that’s your mindset, what happens? If things go well you believe in yourself, you think things are good, and you continue what you’re doing. But if they don’t go well, you…

Nothing is separate from your mind

Today I wanted to ask you, what’s stopping you? Maybe you think that it’s your capabilities, or that there is too much competition. Maybe it’s because you’re not feeling well, because of the virus or that things are too complicated right now. If that’s your answer, you can see that you are believing in the ilusion. In the ilusion of the physical reality. But the truth is that you are creating that reality, with your own mind. The way you see things, the way you think things are, isn’t really true. It’s all in your mind. So from there comes the phrase: Nothing is separate from your mind. Today I had an appointment to take my daughter to the hairdresser. She decided to paint her hair brown, after having it red or pink for a long time. I didn’t really feel like taking her since it’s a 35 minutes ride…

More is more: Ways to deal with jealousy

Today I wanted to tell you about a mindset shift around jealousy. Do you know when you are seeing the feed, instagram or facebook or maybe it’s stories, and you see all the people having these big months in their businesses. Or great holidays, great houses, great relationships…. … and you feel so far from that and you just get triggered. And feel that you’ll never reach that. Or just feel tired that you’ve been trying for so long, but can’t seem to reach even a small portion of that? What can you do about it? Many things actually. One is staying with the emotion that comes up when you see these women. It’s showing you what you need to work on, inside yourself, to be able to reach what they have. Another thing is seeing that the more women that can do that, the better. Because it means you…

Do you believe in your ego, or your Higher Self?

Today I thought about asking you this question, because it makes ALL the difference :) The ego is that voice inside of you, telling you that you’re not enough, that it’s too hard for you, or impossible, because… and the reasons will be many. All the reasons you think you can’t do it, because of how you’ve been conditioned in the past. Maybe it’s because you think you’re too shy, too anxious, or too much. You may think that you’re not loved enough, good enough at what you want to do. And the list goes on and on. That is the list of your ego, so that’s why I was asking you: Do you believe in your ego, or your Higher Self? And the higher self is your true self, who you really are. The ego is that part that created your personality, so that you can fit into the…

What if you’re already enough?

Have you felt that you’re not confident enough, or that you need to believe more in yourself? I’ve felt that way and I think that everyone feels that way from time to time, at least about some things. Do you agree? I think it’s a very common belief that we think we’re not good enough for something we want to achieve. And so, of course we lack confidence and don’t believe in ourselves. But if you think that the belief is just an opinion, an idea that your ego gives you, with the goal to stop you from going for what you are trying to achieve, to keep you in your comfort zone. And on the other hand, keep you constantly trying to improve yourself, so you can be better, and stay in a constant feeling of not being enough… And if you know this, and you know that you…

Are you settling for what you have?

Today I wanted to ask: are you settling for what you have? Maybe you do what I used to do … (and still do, sometimes) Complaining that things aren’t fine, that I don’t want to live like this, that I need more of this and less of that… For example:I need a new oven, I have to get the bikes fixed, I need more time to do what I like, I want to spend more time with my kids… But then… you settle … Oh yes, that’s right, I need to earn more money, it’d be good and all. It’s not working, but… it’s like that, it’s hard to change, it’s easier to stay where I’m at, it’s comfortable, I’m already here… . Oh yes, I want to have more clients but how am I going to do that? I’m already trying, I have my routines, you know how it…

Are you focusing on being happy or on working?

Today I wanted to ask you if you think you don’t have time to take care of yourself, because you need to work on your business. For a long time I heard that our energy comes first, we have to take care of ourselves first, make sure we are happy. Because our business after all, comes from us. You’re responsible for making things happen, for creating your coaching programs or packages, or whatever you want to sell. You’re the one who needs to be there for your customers. And if your energy isn’t good, if you don’t feel good most of the time, how can you do your best work? It seemed like a very good idea, but in practice, I thought I didn’t have the time. Yes, I loved it when I heard that we have to put ourselves first, maybe because what I was doing was the opposite…

More responsability

Today I wanted to talk about responsibility. Because maybe if you have your own business, you also like to avoid responsability. I noticed that was a theme for me, because I always wanted to avoid things that meant that I’d have more tasks to do and be responsible for more things. Why? Because that would reduce my freedom. If I’m responsible for doing something, like a coaching call or a training for a group program, that means, in a way, that I have less freedom. Or I can see it that way. If freedom for me is having my schedule all open and no appointments all day – at least nothing that I must do for other people (that are expecting it). So if you are creating of if you have your own business, that can be a problem. Because you’ll have more responsibility, as things go on, as you…