Today I want to tell you about stopping the excuses.
We all have excuses for lots of things.
Excuses for not going to the gym, not eating what we know it’s best for us, excuses not to do the work we know is the most important.
Excuses for everything.
Not to clean the kitchen at night, to not go try a new place, to not buy tickets for an Ed Sheeran concert (I’ll tell you more about this later ;)).
But excuses are just things that our mind tells us, so we stop. To protect us from the unknown. To protect us from change.
For example: if you want to start going to the gym every day, it’s a change in your life. What does that mean? The part of your brain that wants to protect you doesn’t know, so it prefers that you do nothing. That’s one of the reasons for the resistance we feel to doing new things.
A very good way to stop this resistance is to use the rule of counting 5 4 3 2 1 and then doing what we’re afraid of. Stop thinking and just acting.
But is that enough?
What about when the only thing you can think about is that you don’t feel like it, when you feel really tired and you start to wonder if it’s the best thing for you? Maybe your body, your mind, want to help you, right?
I mean, of course there are times when fear is right. For example if we go into a dark, isolated street. But when it’s things that we decide we’re going to do, and then when the time comes to do them, we start giving up… then it’s resistance and if you know that what you want to do is aligned with what you want for your future, if that’s what will take you to where you want to go… then you need to put release the emotion and do what you’ve already decided to do.
For example, I am writing this post but had several excuses – I don’t feel like it, I have nothing to say, I don’t know what to say, it’s too late, I’ll do it later, I’ll use one I’ve written before (but didn’t post yet), etc. But as soon as I started to write, two things happened:
- I started to feel better
- I knew I had done the right thing by continuing forward.
The same thing happens with the gym. I love doing workouts, because I love how I feel during and after them. But if I start thinking a lot about whether or not I’m going to go, I just waste time. In the end, I almost always decide to go.
Because I made a previous decision that I was going to go and I know it’s just resistance – excuses. And I know that, as soon as I start to do it or a bit later, I’ll feel great. And I’ll also be taking care of myself, doing what I had decided, walking towards my goals, etc.
Even so, there are many times when resistance wins. Because I don’t notice that it’s there, or because I haven’t made decisions about what I want and so I just go with it.
So a good way to stop making excuses is to make decisions based on the results we want. And then tell the excuses, “No thanks, I don’t want to know about it.”
If you really don’t feel like doing it, even though you know it’s the best for you, it also helps to think of a good thing you’re going to do next. Like a reward.
In relation to your style, where do you feel resistance? What are you making excuses for?
It may be to going to the hairstylist, to make different outfits, to wear make-up every day: I don’t feel like it, it’s too much work, I don’t have the time, etc.
If you really decide that you’re going to go to the hairdresser once or twice a week, choose your outfits the day before, wear makeup every day of the week, it will help you overcome the resistance.
Think of 3 things that would improve your style and your image. How do you think your life would be in 6 months, if you did these 3 things, every day? Do journaling about it or imagine what would happen.
Then you just ignore all the excuses, and you just do what you have decided to do.
P.S. Would you like to have pre-chosen outfits in your wardrobe, that you know look great on you, and that you love? That include some of this season’s trends (the ones that are perfect for you)? Then keep checking the next posts, I’m preparing a new style program that will help you get dressed all season, without confusion or doubts or last minute morning madness. xxx
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