How I Changed My Style – Part I
Here’s a bit of the story about my style:
It all started after I had my kids and my body changed.
Or even long before that, now that I think about it…
I always loved fashion and style, and I always wanted to have a certain style, that some of my friends had. I admired them and I wanted to dress like they did.
But no matter how many fashion magazines I read, or how many clothes I bought, I couldn’t.
I blamed my parents. Maybe the problem was that they didn’t take me to those expensive stores, where everything looked better.
But even when I went to those stores, it seemed that I never chose the right outfit.
My friends, on the other hand, always looked great.
And there I was, once again, admiring them from afar and thinking: Why did I choose this dress? And feeling out of place and outdated.
I started to believe that some women were born with style, had a natural ability to look stylish, and others just didn’t. And I was one of the unstylish.
But nonetheless, I went on trying.
It all went from bad to worse when I had my kids. On the one hand, my body changed. And I didn’t recognise my body anymore. On the other hand, I wasn’t even reading the fashion magazines. I was just reading parenting books and magazines, determined to learn how to be a good mom… and leaving everything else to the end of the list.
When I tried the pants that I usually wore, they looked awful on me and I just thought – I’ll never look like I used to. And I believed that I’d never be able to find clothes that looked good on me, because of my new body.
(and my body didn’t even change that much, but it was different… and I didn’t feel good…)
Anyway, one day I went on a shopping trip with my sister in law, because I loved her style. And she showed me clothes and PANTS ;) that I actually loved and that I thought looked good on me.
And after that trip we decided to start an image consulting company, with two more friends.
What I wanted
We called our company Let’Shop and I really wanted to make it work. That way I could learn more about style, I could help others and work on a thing I love: fashion.
The Struggle was Real
The problem was that my 3 friends had lots of style, but I didn’t. I still was the odd one out. But now I had an extra stress factor. I wanted to have style even more because we were going to these meetings, talking about fashion, deciding about our company.
Right at the beginning, we all did a styling course. But even after the course, I couldn’t figure out how to look stylish.
That meant that I didn’t feel confident about the way I looked or about styling clients.
And I wanted to be able to look like I was supposed to look since we started going to fashion events and participating in TV shows about fashion and style.
But most of the times, I had to ask my friends for help with my looks, because I couldn’t figure it out on my own.
And through all this, I felt like the worst dressed, many times.
My fashion problems followed me wherever I went.
Once again I felt that my friends all looked amazing while I looked meh or sometimes, just awful!
And when I decided to try something different, I was afraid of getting it wrong, being critiqued, making a fool out of myself.
I felt inferior and the worst part was that I also was secretly afraid that my husband would find someone more attractive, someone who looked like the women I admired, and leave me for her.
It was like I was hitting a wall. No matter how much I tried and learned the theory, when the time came to make outfits, I still had all the doubts:
“Can I wear these shoes with this dress? What can I wear so I look different? What can I buy that makes me look amazing?” – And so on.
Worst of all, I didn’t know my own style. What I liked to wear. I tried on this and that, and many times it didn’t work for me, it didn’t make me feel confident because it just wasn’t me. But I couldn’t figure out what was me.
Sometimes I even got mean comments (or attitudes) about my appearance.
I remember one time, right at the beginning, when we were being interviewed for a magazine and they wanted to take some pictures of us in a store. I was out of the photograph. Was it my hair? I thought that was the reason, since I didn’t go to the hairdresser and it didn’t look very good but I was also afraid that it was about my outfit or everything together. I felt really annoyed and sad about it. Once again, I was the odd one out.
It got so bad that I just couldn’t take it anymore. I felt out of place and that I couldn’t have style no matter how hard I tried. And then I didn’t feel confident about helping other women too (although it was easier to style other women than myself).
That’s when things changed!!!
To be continued in the next post (part II) – this Wednesday ;)
Lots of love,
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