How to Stop “Sabotaging”

today i wanted to tell you about this idea of self-sabotage and how it’s really not sabotage. Or how to see it differently.

For some time I had that fear that I was sabotaging myself, that I could be going against myself, trying to hurt myself in some way. It didn’t make a lot of sense but that’s what I thought. And I didn’t get it – why would you sabotage yourself?

But what happens is that we have 2 parts, the ego and the true self. The ego tries to protect us and keep us safe. It does it by trying to keep us in our comfort zone, and not letting us do different things. BEcause for the ego, if it’s something new, it’s a risk. You don’t know how it will turn out so the ego tries to keep us where we are.

So if you’re trying to create a new goal like having your first client in your business, or changing your style, you’ll have that voice of the ego, trying to stop you. Those stories that you don’t need to believe, cause they’re not true. But you’ll hear them like, for example:

“This is too hard, I can’t do this, this is impossible for me” or whatever the stories are. And they’re there to stop you, but it’s to keep you safe. For the ego that’s the safety.

So it’s not that you’re sabotaging yourself by acting following these thoughts, it’s just the ego trying to keep you safe.

And what you want to do is to listen to those stories, know they’re not true, and keep acting anyway.

As you act you are changing things. As you keep acting in the direction of your goal, you continue to change things for you. And going in the direction of what you want: the business, the style, …

So remember, listen to the stories, don’t believe them, and keep acting!

Lots of love,

P.S. I need your opinion :) What would you like me to help you with?

I’ve been getting your responses and right now it’s pretty tied between relationships and business. But I also wanted to add another option of style coaching!

So here are the options:

A – Improving your love relationship (and your relationships in general)

B – Finding your first online clients (and move on with your own business)

C – Transforming your style (with an 1:1 take you by the hand approach, that includes the inner work)

Send a message or an email to and let me know what you think.

Thanks so much!!! xxx

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