Today I wanted to ask you: Do you believe in yourself?
And if not, why not?
If you are reading this, I know there were times when you believed in yourself. Times when you were listening to your higher self, that shows you all that is possible for you. And you were happy and excited because you were seeing all the possibilities and in that moment you know… everything is possible.
But then life happens and maybe you woke up feeling a little bit down, and you start to focus on what’s not working in your life. The things that prove to you that you can’t do it.
And there you are again, with no power to create what you really want!
Why is that? That we keep getting back to the disempowering states?
One of the main things, is resistance!
It’s our ego!
I told this before but here it goes again: The ego is there to stop you because the ego wants to protect you!
The ego is a good thing, nothing wrong with the ego, we don’t want to get rid of it! I love my ego :)
But the ego wants to protect you! And it thinks that the best way to do it is to keep you where you are now. You have survived, you know where you are, new things are messy, complicated, risky, dangerous – for the ego. So it’s going to protect you by making you avoid the new stuff. The goal you want to reach! The change you want to make in your life.
So what to do?
You don’t want to run away from the feelings you are feeling or from the thoughts. You don’t want to just replace them with another thoughts without accepting also the ones you have.
For example, if you’re feeling confused. If you feel you don’t know what to do, which is also resistance from the ego, what can you do?
First accept that confusion, accept the resistance, don’t fight it. What you resists, persists. What you try to run away from, chases you! You can’t get rid of it by running, by affirming the contrary, it will come again and again.
You want to accept it. Yes, it’s that confusion again. That’s good. Why is it here? You can talk to it. You can be curious about it… Why are you here? What do you want to tell me? Maybe that it’s dangerous, that you don’t know what you’re doing.. all the limiting beliefs and thoughts that you have inside of you.
And you want to accept that little girl inside of you that feels confused, that feels she doesn’t know what she’s doing, that is afraid. You want to be there for her, tell her it’s ok. that everything is all right. There is no danger, you can help her now. And you know what to do.
And then you can choose what you want to do. Even if you are aware of those stories, those interpretations, you now know that they aren’t real. They are the defenses, that the ego created to protect you!
What’s your next step? What are you going to do?
And another thing is staying with that feeling. Close your eyes and feel it deeply and notice where it is, in your body. That confusion and doubt. And you can ask the feeling: What does it need, to feel better? And maybe you see a situation where you knew exactly what to do, when you were so certain and confident.
And you can bring that feeling into the now, join it with the other feeling, and these are the two sides of the coin: Being doubtful, being certain! But you don’t want to grasp for one or the other, they are too extremes of the same theme. You want to accept both, not reject one or the other. And from that acceptance, you can make a choice of what you want now.
What is your next step?
And go with the first thing that comes to your mind!
Lots of love,
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P.P.P.S. I’m listening to this music now, it helps to give a bit of power ;)
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